Over the last five years I’ve done a lot of work de-cluttering my home. I have over time thrown out several wardrobes full of clothes I bought during my emotional spending wilderness years as well as a bin bag full of shoes and who knows how many books. A lot went on ebay and the rest to charity shops. Along with my mum I also spent a couple of years selling unwanted goods at car boot sales.
However reading this book there is still a lot I found I can do. In the introductory section of the book Marie tells us before tidying and decluttering you must imagine the life you want as that is how the end result of this cleaning should reflect. After my initial breakdown in 2010 I spent a lot of time looking into what I wanted and how to achieve that and as a result I have plans for career, have worked on my friendships and relationships. This year I took steps to battle my financial debt.
A few months ago I stopped dieting and wrote a blog about how after 20 years I’m actually still the same weight so I wanted to look at just eating healthily. I think this is where for a while I lost my identity. No longer the woman who diets really badly I stopped thinking about me and what I want as a person. So using Marie’s method of visualising my thoughts were about how I want to be a strong, confident woman who would be reflected in lovely well fitted clothes and shoes. While comfortable in size and shape I need to be comfortable with the full package.
So that’s what I had in mind when starting to tidy what’s left after the last few years of de-cluttering. While reading the book I could often think of things that could go straight away. I have a wardrobe still with lots of clothes that hopefully I would eventually fit in. I do wonder if that’s a way I am holding my life back. Clothes for a person I am not and may not be. And even if I did slim down would I actually want to wear these clothes? Kondo suggests you take each item of clothing, feel them and ask yourself if you love it or need it. And I think the answer for those is probably no. I believe what’s best for me is to find some well-fitting, nice clothes for the person and size I am now and if I ever do slim down then I get to treat myself to something smaller.
I tried to tidy my shoes. I have a collection of killer heels in fabulous colours. I took them all out and laid them on the bed, decided that no way would I get rid of all of them, gave several of them a hug (!) and then put them all back. I don’t want to get rid of my shoes. I want a life where I get to wear my lovely shoes so that is something I’ve been working on setting up over the last few days.
The funny thing is I’m still only halfway through reading the book and all these fantastic ideas and thoughts are flooding in. Apart from looking at the shoes I haven’t even got to the actual tidying yet. A truly remarkable book.
Someone asked me the other week if I’d heard of Life Manuals and I had to look it up. In the article I read it talked about having a notebook (or computer programme for the techies amongst you) full of ‘how to’s’ in case you forget how to do something. I suppose seeing as I’m very close to mid-40’s these things might happen but I’m not sure I want to waste my pretty notebook collection writing down details of how to pay my bills. When the day comes I don’t remember how to do that I hope the family will be on hand to do it for me 🙂
What I do have is a LIFE Book. Life is too short (to me) to be just going to work, coming home, and paying the bills. I like To Do lists, goal setting and fun challenges. Some will take forever like visiting a city in each country of Western Europe and others are quick & silly like trying 10 new different types of tea (I like tea!). It’s full of places to see, museums to try, books I’ve seen in passing I’d like to read, films I’d like to see.
Because I prefer paper to laptop lists it’s got a paper copy of my goals from the day zero project (101 things to do in 1001 days), it’s got the beginnings of my second list of 101 things to try, my budgeting goals and so much more. Fun stuff. Stuff that life is all about. Stuff that gets you out of the house and seeing the world or having some fun. Things to aim for and dream about during another rainy day stuck in the office or when my depression flares up and I need something positive to focus on.
And it works. I do try these things however slowly. And I love to be able to tick off another goal achieved. Doesn’t matter whether it’s a notebook, your tablet or like my son and you use a whiteboard- make some goals, try something new 🙂
There’s a Life Coaching challenge I’ve been attempting where you create a folder; either on your phone, social media, computer… wherever. And then, of all the photos you may have taken that day you can only put in it only one photo. Something positive to represent your day. The idea is that you can find something positive no matter what and also to try and limit the amount of meaningless photo’s we take.
My son last tried to upload to his Facebook page 10,000 photographs in 2016. He’s a photographer so the huge number isn’t so bad. He fell short by 1500 photo’s. I had a lot of respect for him attempting it last year even more so now as I’m struggling so much to take just 30!
It’s not that I can’t find something positive every day but some days while you may have moved mountains clearing your paperwork or studying or cleaning the house or whatever it isn’t really photo-worthy. I’ve ended up with a stockpile of pictures of food, coffee, trees and flowers for those days where I just had a really nice day doing jobs on my to do list. I’ve already posted a photo of my To Do list with the jobs crossed out so I’m sure my friends don’t want to see it again.
Has anyone ever tried this and found loads to photograph? I’m thinking that under my old job where I worked in the community I may have found lots more pictures to take being constantly outside or travelling. Due to a travel ban in my new job my days are spent tied to a desk. I’m sure no one wants endless photos of that either.
So with 15 days to go I may be back to creating a diary full of food and flowers
Has anyone tried it to do this? How did you find it? Let me know
Book Club (Louise Hay – You can heal your life)
As well as specialising in things holistic and complimentary we at New Beginnings at one time hosted the book club on the now sadly closed South Leeds Community radio station. We’ve decided to bring back the book club but from the more accessible Costa coffee on Briggate, Leeds
As we are all about positivity and healing the new book club will be for those who wish to read spiritual books (not necessary religion though), self help books, other general positive works and no doubt throwing in our favourite decluttering books to chat about. The choices are endlessTo start with we will be discussing Louise Hay – You can heal your life
Good reads blurb: Louise’s key message in this powerful work is: “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” Louise explains how limiting beliefs and ideas are often the cause of illness, and how you can change your thinking…and improve the quality of your life.Don’t worry if you don’t get chance to read it, please still come along and join the discussion. We also invite you to bring a choice for the next club and be a part of the forward planning discussion. Appreciating not everyone works Mon-Fri & 9-5 we thought this could be an evolving event where we can choose dates between us dependent on the best work patterns and also change venues whenever we feel like it. Maybe in August we could meet in the park & bring picnics?? We want the events to be as inclusive as possible. Everyone has something to share and bring to the chat.
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Here at New Beginnings we believe everyone should have the chance to be who they truly want to be and provide the ways and means to help anyone start their journey to being their true self. We believe in it because we’ve been through this ourselves and are now in a position to share our knowledge. Our joy comes from helping you get to where you really want to be.
Our workshops combine tried and tested methods including Life Coach support, CBT, Mindfulness and decluttering as well as utilising Cosmic Ordering/The Law of Attraction. We are also big believers in releasing your inner child so the option of creating something to take home is available in each workshop from vision boards to memory boxes for your greatest treasures.
Have you ever felt that within your day to day life this is not who you truly are? Do you feel wasted in your day job or your life is not as fulfilling as you would like it to be. We understand and can provide you with the tools that can help you on your way through our selection of workshops.
We can also provide you with the necessary spiritual & holistic healing through crystal therapy and angelic healing that can remove many of the blocks that are standing in your way leaving you feeling refreshed, whole and ready to tackle the challenges ahead. People usually feel very relaxed and peaceful, and find that it can help to alleviate symptoms of stress, pain and worry.
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We love trying new things out so when I got an email from my good friend Sally Chaffer who is a Reiki instructor regarding a talk she was giving at the Heart centre in Headingley we just had to go.
Heart Centre is a lovely building tucked away from the high street. I’ve been there before for craft fairs. During our event they also had a Husting on as part of the recent national elections. Up until that day I never knew what a Hustings was! Turns out to be an archaic name for a Q&A.
Sally started her event with a talk about energy vampires and the people who seem to just sap all your energy when you talk to them, We all have that one person who makes us want to run in the opposite direction whenever we see them coming. She gave us some hints and tips on how to deal with this including a short visualisation and relaxation technique that you can do straight away no matter where you are. Stood in the queue at Tesco’s and feeling stressed. It can be done there too.
After a short break (where I got caught by a work colleague who proceeded to be an energy vampire and therefore completing failing to understand the whole point of the evening) we had a group healing. I’ve had one to one Reiki before which I love but this was my first time in a group. For me it was a chance to relax, let the stresses of the day fade away and just gain a little bit of peace and quiet.
Some new people were amazed at the difference in feelings and one girl mentioned feeling lightness in her stomach. I love relaxation techniques of all kinds and can’t wait to try the next one
~ Kirsty ~