I’ve recently read a book called Weight Loss for People who Feel Too Much and there’s a part in it that made me think about our actions and the way we talk to others.
In the book one of the recommendations is to live life more simply by cutting back on the amount of negativity we subject ourselves to. By that I mean reading less gossip magazines, cutting down (or out) of social media, less news article and trying to reduce the amount of negative conversations we have.
I can do most of that and apart from too much social media. I spend a lot of time on public transport including trains and it’s an easy way to pass the time. Even though I have a kindle to read I often flick between that and social media more than I need to. So in that I need to cut down.
It’s the negative conversations that struck me though. How often do we spend time chatting with our friends and it’s all about how bad our day was, what traumas we overcame that day and what gossip we had found out. How often do we ring or text our friends and say ‘Do you know I’ve had a lovely day, some good chats with work colleagues and the bus was on time to get me home…’ or whatever happens. I think we are often far too quick to moan and not celebrate the good things.
I don’t think myself and my friends do it enough. I think we can do better. Although it’s not all doom and gloom. Myself and my best friend are having a detox week – her with caffeine and me with fizzy diet drinks. We’ve been texting daily with how well that’s going and how we are overcoming cravings or planning for any self sabotage. There’s been lots of encouragement and ideas flowing over how we can move forward with the next stage in what we both need to do in a dietary for our positive mental health (less caffeine and sugar). Now those are positive conversations.
You can’t ban all negativity though. Sometimes you have bad days and need to vent to your friends or significant other. Not talking creates even more negative mental health and as my depression came from this I would always advocate talking. It’s finding the right balance between talking about issues and becoming an energy vampire. Do you make a rule to only discuss issues at a certain time or never during the evening meal? I’m going to chat this over with my friends and see what rules we can come up with for our group.
But I am definitely going to work on my balance and concentrate on not overwhelming people with negative thoughts.
I’ve always had an interest in the esoteric, the spiritual, ghosts and ghoulies. My mum and gran used to tell me tales of an old aunt that was a spiritualist and I grew up (and still live) besides a cemetery. But until recently I rarely used crystals.
Then one day at a workshop on manifestation (vision boards not more ghosts but that’s for another blog) our trainers mentioned a course in crystal therapy. I decided to go along. If nothing else it would be fun. I left thinking where had they been all my life!
Crystals come from the earth, from rock formations. They all have unique identities and energies. Part of the first workshop involved either handling them or sitting in circles of a certain type of crystal. And you can feel the difference! You can feel the love sitting in a circle of rose quartz. When surrounded by flourite I felt a lovely soft but invigorating breeze and I can’t go anywhere near orange calcite without getting the giggles.
I gave my son a blue lace agate crystal. He had been suffering from depression after a string of problems. He’s autistic so has always had communication problems as well. On top of that he’s a typical dour Yorkshireman. I asked him to have this crystal to help him. He rolled his eyes and told me to stick it on a shelf (his typical response). Several days later I noticed it move from the shelf to his bedside. Then one day he called me and told me he’d broken it . The crystal had absorbed so much of his negative energies healing him the blue had faded and in it’s place a lovely thin gold band appeared. That doesn’t happen to everyone but it did give me faith in the journey I was undertaking. And it’s always a lovely story to tell
(I currently have him doing some life coaching & goal setting so will update on this story later but it continues to be positive).
Going on the second course felt like I’d never been away. So much lovely energy in the room and I felt like this was the way I needed to go. I suffer from a frozen shoulder and arthritis in my knees & feet. Working with crystals all day often works more effectively at managing pain than medication. So not only do I get to help others but it aides me at the same time. Not many other jobs can say that!
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We love trying new things out so when I got an email from my good friend Sally Chaffer who is a Reiki instructor regarding a talk she was giving at the Heart centre in Headingley we just had to go.
Heart Centre is a lovely building tucked away from the high street. I’ve been there before for craft fairs. During our event they also had a Husting on as part of the recent national elections. Up until that day I never knew what a Hustings was! Turns out to be an archaic name for a Q&A.
Sally started her event with a talk about energy vampires and the people who seem to just sap all your energy when you talk to them, We all have that one person who makes us want to run in the opposite direction whenever we see them coming. She gave us some hints and tips on how to deal with this including a short visualisation and relaxation technique that you can do straight away no matter where you are. Stood in the queue at Tesco’s and feeling stressed. It can be done there too.
After a short break (where I got caught by a work colleague who proceeded to be an energy vampire and therefore completing failing to understand the whole point of the evening) we had a group healing. I’ve had one to one Reiki before which I love but this was my first time in a group. For me it was a chance to relax, let the stresses of the day fade away and just gain a little bit of peace and quiet.
Some new people were amazed at the difference in feelings and one girl mentioned feeling lightness in her stomach. I love relaxation techniques of all kinds and can’t wait to try the next one
~ Kirsty ~